Guest Post – Five Things Happy Women Do Differently

Our guest post today comes from Jill Campbell Farris at Generational Womanhood. Jill writes and speaks from Washington State where she and her husband Doug have been married for 30 years. They are the proud parents of 8 children ages 7 to 27.

Jill invites you to visit her blog and like Generational Womanhood on Facebook. Visit her speakers website and follow her on twitter @jcampbellfarris.


Five Things Happy Women Do Differently

1.) They give thanks.

Want a wonderful summer project? Delve into God’s word and count how many times He commands us to give thanks. The Bible was originally read by people who had short life expectancies, no conveniences and high infant mortality rates yet God said “Give thanks.”

He still tells us to do the same!

Want to be loved and wanted? Cultivate a spirit of gratitude and you will have the world beating a path to your door!

2.) They don’t compare.

Yes, we women are very good at this. We compare physical attributes, houses, homeschooling schedules and “to do” lists and, in the process, we look critically at one another. Instead, the Bible says to practice “One anothering” which involves honoring, loving and serving each other. Oh, may we treat “one another” the way that God intends so that the world will see and know that we are His disciples.

3.) They serve.

By getting outside of ourselves and following in the footsteps of Jesus, we become His hands and feet to a hurting world. Whatever stage of life in which you find yourself begin with small steps of service.

Take your young children to visit the elderly and watch how their presence brightens up a darkened place. If you are unable to leave your home, pray over the phone for those who are hurting. There is great joy to be found in serving others!

4.) They forgive.

You may be practicing gratitude, service and “one anothering”   but if you are bitter or angry toward someone you will not be happy. Ask God to show you if you are secretly angry with anyone. Don’t be embarrassed to confess resentment and bitterness over little incidents…hurt comes in all shapes and sizes.

Make the decision to forgive and then walk in forgiveness. Mark on your calendar the day you chose to forgive and when the memory comes up to slap you in the face, tell the enemy of your soul that you have confessed it and been cleansed under the blood of Jesus. He has taken care of it. You can trust Him.

5.) They take care of themselves.

Sometimes you may feel like you hate everyone and what you really need is a good night’s sleep. Until you meet Jesus face to face, your soul is housed in a body that influences its emotions and spirit. It is spiritually wise to take care of yourself so you can be a blessing to those whom God has called you to influence and to bless.

You, dear Christian woman, are an incredible force for evil or for good. Your influence will be felt for generations to come. What kind of impact do you want to have on others? Ask God to give you the will to embrace His ways. May the legacy of your life be one of genuine Christ-like joy!


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How to… Live Free

Faith in Christ brings freedom, yet so many Christians find themselves living as if they aren’t free. Galatians 5 provides the instruction needed to truly live free. Following a set of rules does not bring freedom. Only Christ does. So, how can we truly live in that freedom?

Before company arrives and cookouts begin. Before heading off to parades and fireworks, take a few minutes this 4th of July to consider Paul’s advice for how to live free.

  1. Make sure you stay free (v 1). Don’t get bogged down by a rigged set of rules.
  2. Express your freedom (v 6). Focus on loving others.
  3. Live free (v 13). True freedom follows Jesus’ example, which means serving others.
  4. Protect your freedom (v 15). Avoid “biting and devouring.” As much as it is up to you, live at peace with others (Romans 12:18).
  5. Eagerly receive everything promised (v 5). What is promised to those who “are right with God through faith”? Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control (v 22).

Rejoice in your freedom today. Then, thank the One who paid the price for that freedom.

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Sunday Reflections – Light the Fuse!

Some people use lighters, some cigarettes and some matches. Others buy “punks” made specifically for lighting fireworks. No matter what you use to light fireworks, you need a spark of some sort. You also need air (oxygen). Without either of those elements, the fireworks simply won’t light. And when they won’t light, they are called duds and hold little value.

What lights your fuse?

In a spiritual sense, what gets you excited? What motivates you, essentially lighting your fuse? As a Christian, nothing motivates me more than the value I have in Christ. Consider the following:

“”For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” (John 3:16)

“Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground apart from the will of your Father. And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.” (Matthew 10:29-31)

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” (Psalm 139:14)

“You were bought at a price.” (1 Corinthians 6:20)

“But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed.” (Isaiah 53:5)

These verses tell me of my value. They tell me I am one-of-a-kind. Some days, I don’t agree. I don’t think I’m valuable, special or unique. Fortunately, God’s opinion of me is more accurate (precisely so, actually) and real than my opinion of me. He’s perfect, after all.

What fuels your spark?

Without air, a spark will die, never reaching its purpose. Air, specifically oxygen, is the single most important element in the physical sense for humans. We can live 40 days without food, 3 days without water, but only minutes without air.

Spiritually, not only does our Creator stand as our greatest motivator because of the value He gives us, He also provides the “air” needed to fuel the fuse once it’s lit. Consider the following:

“The LORD God formed the man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.” (Genesis 2:7)

“This is what the Sovereign Lord says: Come from the four winds, O breath, and breathe into these slain, that they may live.’” So I prophesied as he commanded me, and breath entered them; they came to life and stood up on their feet—a vast army.” (Ezekiel 37:9-10)

“With that he breathed on them and said, “Receive the Holy Spirit.” (John 20:22)

Our very life breath finds its source with God, the One who can even rise up dry bones and breathe life into them once again. And if that doesn’t “fan the flame” (2 Timothy 1:6) for you, realize that He also breathes His Holy Spirit on use to give us amazing power to do that which He created us to do.

We can’t earn God’s love. He gives it freely. In fact, He loves us so intensely that He wants us to always be with Him (John 14:3)… forever (Psalm 23:6). His love shows through in how He values us, motivates us and fuels us… and that love is a faithful love that will always remain (Isaiah 54:10).