Comments on: Decisions, Decisions, Decisions – Part 1

By: Kari Scare

Kari Scare — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 19:04:38 +0000

My pleasure! I'm am working on that point with my yougest son right now. Not working too well yet, but maybe it will if I give it more time. Perhaps I've trained him to not make his own decisions. Ouch!

By: Loren Pinilis

Loren Pinilis — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 17:16:18 +0000

Wow, thanks for the shout-out!
I especially like your point about letting other people make their own decisions. I know, with my personality, that will be a struggle for me as my boys age.

By: Kari Scare

Kari Scare — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 15:17:58 +0000

I definitely will make a decision to exhibit control, especially over my kids, and I need to stop doing that. Patience is a huge part of making decisions, and I think that's where wisdom comes in too. Gets at the idea of "waiting on the Lord," which is another area to deliberately work at. Always something more to work on… that's why we are always being perfected.

By: Mark Allman

Mark Allman — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:46:04 +0000

Kari,
It can be tough on us to wait. Not acting is hard sometimes especially when we think we must take action to force someone else to take action such as in discipline. Waiting to see if they can get to the right place by themselves is hard and is very difficult to not make a decision to act. You are right Kari; I think sometimes we make a decision so we can tell ourselves "take that, we dealt with it, hear me roar!"
Mark

By: Barb

Barb — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:28:44 +0000

You are so right. Here's to making our lives easier!

By: Kari Scare

Kari Scare — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:25:49 +0000

We are so good at making our lives more difficult than they need to be. We forget that often, our job is simply to let God do His job. I am trying very hard to remember that, especially with my boys. Okay, so trying isn't doing… I'm going to do this!

By: Barb

Barb — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:18:41 +0000

This is so true. I used to run a large homeschool co-op with a friend of mine. Whenever someone called with a problem, I jumped on it right away and stepped in to solve it. My friend waited a day or two to call the person back and by that time the person had usually solved it by herself. My life would have been easier if i'd followed my friend's approach!

By: Barb

Barb — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:17:09 +0000

Okay – I'll also be trying out the optimizing decisions idea.

By: Kari Scare

Kari Scare — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:15:34 +0000

My husband is great at not making a decision until he has to make one. Often, the decision is made for us when we wait. God has a way of working things out IF WE JUST LET HIM. You made an excellent point about getting at the root cause of our indecision & worry. So often, I think we do make a decision too quickly and stop the process of dealing with issues as a result. Oh my, this could get at some deep stuff, especially if we start to question how many times we've avoided things.

By: Kari Scare

Kari Scare — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:13:44 +0000

Thanks Barb. I was overwhelmed by the amount of tips that were in the comments too. Lots of wise people out there! Let me know how the systemizing works if you think about it.