Five Ways To Combat Stress, a Guest Post by Dan Erickson

Dan Erickson writes about writing and blogging in a hectic world.  His blog,  “writing for the sake of my humanity,” is an eclectic combination of writing and blogging advice, poetry, music, and minimalism.  Dan has written two books including, A Train Called Forgiveness , based on his personal experience of being the child victim of an extreme religious cult.

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Dan EricksonStress.

I’ve had my share.

I was the child victim of a religious cult, basically a slave to a megalomaniac cult leader.  After my escape as a 16-year-old boy, I went to the opposite extreme and enjoyed my freedom a little too much.  I spent years wondering aimlessly, experimenting with drugs and alcohol, which be the way, didn’t relieve the stress.

After a dozen years of self-abuse, I finally found my way back to normal.  Whatever that is?  I went back to college at the age of 30, earned my master’s degree by 38, and was married about the same time.

My spouse wound up having extreme mental health issues.  More stress.  We lost our firstborn child.  Stress on top of stress.  She couldn’t care for our second.  Her meddling parents tried to convince her she could.  Triple stress.  That led to a divorce that took five years to complete, and to me becoming the single parent to my daughter when she was 11-months old.  Superstress.  Yes, that’s a new word.

So as you can see, I’ve dealt with my share of stress.  Recently, I added more stress to my plate.  I started a blog (or three).  I wrote a book (or two).  I bought a house (only one).  And now I’m teaching double-overload classes as a college instructor in order to pay for the house.  Geez!  Will I ever learn?

Yes!  I will.  And I have.  What I’ve learned is that one doesn’t necessarily have to eliminate stressful events, but rather there are ways to relieve stress during those events.  The key is balance.

Stress becomes harder to bear when we focus only on the stressors.  So we must find other outlets, other places to focus our energy.  We need to learn to compartmentalize our activities.

Here are five things I’ve done to help myself through the most stressful times in my life.

  1. Eating right: I put this at the top of the list because it’s essential to well being.  When we eat foods that lack nutrients, it’s like fueling our bodies with bad gas.  If you get bad gas in your car, it can cause it to sputter and run inefficiently.  When we eat junk we get tired and worn down.  This is the last thing we need when we’re under heavy stress.  Make sure to spend the extra time and money to eat plenty of fruits, vegetables, seeds, and nuts, and other foods rich in nutrients.
  2. Exercise: My divorce was strung out and frustrating.  The waiting and the expense was enough to drive anyone crazy.  So… I ran.  I discovered that running is an excellent way of dealing with pent up negative energy.  Something happened when I ran.  It was meditative.  I focused only on the moment, each step, my breath.  That allowed me to disengage from the stress of the divorce.  Exercise helps us think clearer.  It’s an essential part of dealing with life’s stressors.
  3. Team support: I’ve always been a bit of a maverick.  If I can’t do it myself then forget it.  When I became a single dad, I discovered that I could not be a one-man show.  I had to reach out to others.  What I found is that there are a lot of good people out there who are willing to help out someone in distress.  Several members of the church I attend stepped up to help take turns watching my daughter so that I could work and take occasional getaways.  Having people in your corner during stressful times is a Godsend.
  4. I’m a musician.  Music has always been an incredible outlet for me.  But sometimes life has become so complicated that I’ve set my music aside for short periods of time.  When I’m stressed I’ve found that returning to music is another effective self-therapy.  For you it might be writing, cooking, or gardening.  But having a hobby to turn to helps to balance things out a bit.
  5. Meditation: I’m not a Zen Master.  I’m not a Yogi.  In fact, I’m a Christian by faith.  But I’ve found that meditation can be extremely helpful in relieving stress.  That doesn’t mean I don’t believe in prayer.  I do.  And I practice prayer, too.  But sometimes prayer can cause us to focus on the problem when we should let it go.  I’ve found that practicing simple breathing exercises while letting the mind relax, letting thoughts dissipate, can bring down tension levels considerably.

I’m sure there are other things one can do to combat stress.  From my own experience, finding a balance that includes good nutrition, team support and healthy activities has worked wonders.

DISCUSSION: Tell me about a stressful situation in your life.  What methods were most effective for you in dealing with the stress?

Dan invited me to guest post on his site, “writing for the sake of my humanity,” earlier this month. Check out the post, “writing, why you should trust the process,” on Dan’s blog. Be sure to peruse the rest of the site while you’re there!

For the month of April, Struggle to Victory is focusing on my virtual influences by featuring guest posts, by guest posting on other sites, and by highlighting some of the regular visitors to this blog. Hopefully, you’ll be encouraged, strengthened & challenged by these people as much as I have on a regular basis, people I am proud to say have an impact on my thinking in ways that matter eternally.

19 thoughts on “Five Ways To Combat Stress, a Guest Post by Dan Erickson

  1. Yes you have dealt with stressors some can't even fathom. Thanks for sharing your tips.
    I use many of the same techniques to some degree.
    In the past kick boxing really helped relieve some pent up energy and frustration. I do yoga but it's for the stretching and deep breathing. It's a way I can stop the noise of the world. I often pray during yoga posses.
    Singing and writing are other ways I deal with stress. Sometimes the only thing I can do is get out a pen and paper and just let my emotions and thoughts fly! It's amazing what can be uncovered when you write without an agenda.

      • In my experience, it depends on the teacher and the focus. Some teachers really get into the more mystical aspect of it. Others just focus on the physical benefits, which I have found to be significant. Those are the ones I look for. I just want the movement and the breathing, not that other stuff. I figure I don't want to "throw the baby out with the bathwater," so I benefit from the physical and avoid the mystical. Thoughts from you guys on this?

  2. Dan, thank you for this. Christians can be the worst at taking care of their bodies and then we wonder why we're so stressed. God made us to function a certain way and you can't cheat the system for too long or there are lasting implications. I hope more people get the "revelation" of the things you're talking about here because no one is going to make you take care of yourself and it's not being selfish to do so. Anyway, I can get on a soapbox, but I'll stop! Thanks again, Dan (and Kari).
    My recent post Death Is a Lie

    • Jason, not only is it not being selfish, it can be selfless to take care of yourself so that you can take care of others. I agree that as Christians we can be the worst at dealing with stress. I think many times we believe we are doing God's work so much that it actually becomes selfish and ego-based and that definitely leads to stress.
      My recent post special guest post on stress

      • It's about balance. And balance doesn't necessarily mean equal. Actually, I am going to be starting another blog in a couple of months that focuses on the physical and some on the mental aspect because I think we neglect those, especially Christians. The Bible says that the physical has "some value," 1 Timothy 4:8) but we treat it as if it has no value at times. I think we need more balance among the spiritual, physical and mental.

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