Guest Post – Five Things Happy Women Do Differently

Our guest post today comes from Jill Campbell Farris at Generational Womanhood. Jill writes and speaks from Washington State where she and her husband Doug have been married for 30 years. They are the proud parents of 8 children ages 7 to 27.

Jill invites you to visit her blog and like Generational Womanhood on Facebook. Visit her speakers website and follow her on twitter @jcampbellfarris.


Five Things Happy Women Do Differently

1.) They give thanks.

Want a wonderful summer project? Delve into God’s word and count how many times He commands us to give thanks. The Bible was originally read by people who had short life expectancies, no conveniences and high infant mortality rates yet God said “Give thanks.”

He still tells us to do the same!

Want to be loved and wanted? Cultivate a spirit of gratitude and you will have the world beating a path to your door!

2.) They don’t compare.

Yes, we women are very good at this. We compare physical attributes, houses, homeschooling schedules and “to do” lists and, in the process, we look critically at one another. Instead, the Bible says to practice “One anothering” which involves honoring, loving and serving each other. Oh, may we treat “one another” the way that God intends so that the world will see and know that we are His disciples.

3.) They serve.

By getting outside of ourselves and following in the footsteps of Jesus, we become His hands and feet to a hurting world. Whatever stage of life in which you find yourself begin with small steps of service.

Take your young children to visit the elderly and watch how their presence brightens up a darkened place. If you are unable to leave your home, pray over the phone for those who are hurting. There is great joy to be found in serving others!

4.) They forgive.

You may be practicing gratitude, service and “one anothering”   but if you are bitter or angry toward someone you will not be happy. Ask God to show you if you are secretly angry with anyone. Don’t be embarrassed to confess resentment and bitterness over little incidents…hurt comes in all shapes and sizes.

Make the decision to forgive and then walk in forgiveness. Mark on your calendar the day you chose to forgive and when the memory comes up to slap you in the face, tell the enemy of your soul that you have confessed it and been cleansed under the blood of Jesus. He has taken care of it. You can trust Him.

5.) They take care of themselves.

Sometimes you may feel like you hate everyone and what you really need is a good night’s sleep. Until you meet Jesus face to face, your soul is housed in a body that influences its emotions and spirit. It is spiritually wise to take care of yourself so you can be a blessing to those whom God has called you to influence and to bless.

You, dear Christian woman, are an incredible force for evil or for good. Your influence will be felt for generations to come. What kind of impact do you want to have on others? Ask God to give you the will to embrace His ways. May the legacy of your life be one of genuine Christ-like joy!


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10 thoughts on “Guest Post – Five Things Happy Women Do Differently

  1. The point about comparisons fits with what I am personally working on in my own life. Comparisons lead to unhappiness. Honoring, loving and serving one another is a focus I am striving toward instead of comparing myself to others to make may ways seem right. In so many ways, there is no right and wrong, only preferences. Developing an appreciation for God's creativity is what I am working on when I look at others.

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  3. I think all women struggle with comparisons, Kari. It's because God made us relationship oriented…and He also calls us "sheep." We follow each other! I like what you said about developing an appreciation for God's creativity when we look at others. Good point!

    Thanks for allowing me to share your space today!

    blessings to you and all your readers,

    Jill Farris

    • I agree that all women struggle with this. I also believe that we can find victory in this struggle when we focus on God and His goodness and creativity. Glad to have you here today!

  4. Before I even read the comments, that's what I was going to mention–comparisons! It drives me crazy. I can be going along, happy as a clam, and then a woman tries to put me down to make herself feel better and suddenly I'm comparing, too. Ugh! My goal is to consider others better than myself and then when someone puts me down, it won't even affect me. Very nice post and very accurate, too.

      • I think it would be fantastic if we could hold each other accountable for this issue. Instead of just asking how our friends are, we can ask how they're feeling with respect to comparisons with others. We live in a comparison-obsessed world. We need to support and pray for one another.

  5. This is so good, Jill. I think you've hit the nail on the head about what makes us happy – it's a far different list than the world offers. I have found these all to be very true in my life – now if I could only consistently follow them! Have to keep going back to God to have my attitude and perspective adjusted.

  6. Thank you for the insightful comments, ladies. Yes, keeping this list is only possible through the all encompassing strength of our loving God.

    I am sure you-all noticed that nowhere on the list is money, beauty, perfect children or a perfectly loving husband. Happy women make choices and they do it even when their life is far from perfect.

    Interestingly enough, happy women attract the kind of people and circumstances that most people wish they had anyway. It has been my lifetime goal to watch and learn from all sorts of people. It is good to know that with God's help we can exercise and strengthen our "happiness habit!"


    Jill Farris

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