One of my boys’ favorite Christmas movies is “The Santa Clause” starring Tim Allen. Toward the end of the movie, some of the elves help Santa escape from jail using tinsel to cut the hinges off the cell door, and one of them says,
“Tinsel. Not just for decoration.”
My boys love this part of the movie. In fact, we quote it often this time of year mainly because of the overwhelming presence of tinsel in our Christmas tree decorating.
When I was growing up, my family always put tinsel on our tree as the final touch. When I got married, my husband protested against the tinsel because it got everywhere. Though I couldn’t argue with him, I also just couldn’t part with the tinsel.
There are three reasons I like tinsel on my Christmas tree:
My tree looks naked without tinsel. All I see is green when there’s no tinsel on the tree. Plus, it just doesn’t look like the tree I had growing up as a child. Now, I don’t keep all of my childhood traditions alive, but this one produces such good memories that Christmas seems incomplete without it. To my husband’s credit, he never outright forbids tinsel use because he knows it brings back positive childhood memories of Christmas for me.
Tinsel provides a year-round reminder of Christmas. My husband finds tinsel annoying not just because it gets everywhere, but also because we still find remnants of it in August. For me, this is just another way that Christmas joy can be experienced year-round. No, I’m not talking about the pleasure I receive by my husband getting annoyed when he finds tinsel in the vacuum in August (okay, maybe a little), but mainly that with every piece of tinsel we find in the summer, we think — and even reminisce — about the joy of the Christmas holiday again even if just for a moment.
Tinsel hides ornaments I dislike. This is turning into a post on how I like to annoy my husband with tinsel (Oops!). Well, he does have this one ornament he insists on placing front and center on our tree, and I can’t stand the thing (Sorry Dallas Cowboy fans!). So, I use tinsel to hide the ornament, and he of course moves the tinsel every time I put it there. Again, just creating fun Christmas memories with my hubby! It’s all good-natured fun… really, I promise.
The point? There are two, actually. First, have fun and enjoy Christmas memories not just during the Christmas season but year round too. Second, don’t miss out on those small opportunities to create those memories. After all, it’s usually the small events and moments that add up and combine to make a significant impact on your life.
DISCUSSION: What fun Christmas traditions help bond your family and provide small opportunities that add up to make a difference year round?
As soon, and often before, our family vacations are over, our boys usually are planning our next vacation. Even at 11 and 13, they prefer being with their parents on vacation than at home with their friends. Not sure if that’s normal or not, but I love it. We work very hard as a family to make sure our times away strengthen and bond us, and the following tips are the building blocks of how we structure our vacations for this purpose. These points also help make vacations relaxing, which for me, needs to happen in order for the bonding to happen too.
Know everyone’s priority. Depending on how long you will be on vacation, have each person prioritize activities. Then, do your best to make sure at least one of the tope items on every person’s list gets done. (Keep in mind that having several options is important.) We often spend time prior to leaving on vacation researching options while we plan our vacation as well as most of the first day of vacation deciding activities.
Look at free/ low cost options. We love to visit state parks, national monuments and other free/low cost activities when on vacation. This gets us outside more and allows us to learn about the area we are visiting. On our last vacation, we spent a day hiking in a state park, visiting the fish hatchery and touring the DNR facility. These were all free activities and a lot of fun. Don’t forget to check out the local coupons for tourists too to help keep costs down.
Immerse in local culture. We enjoy reading about the culture of our destination and then visiting some of the places we read about. We learn a lot about history and have fun quizzing each other on it. Local culture activities not only are usually the least expensive but are also often free.
Have a flexible budget. My husband sets a budget for us and then monitors it as we plan activities. Utilizing the coupons that most destinations offer for tourists helps a lot in sticking to our budget. We also can enjoy activities without feeling guilty and wondering how we’ll pay for the vacation after it’s over.
Schedule down time. My ideal vacation involves lots of reading and coffee time. Down time for reading and relaxing is my top priority on vacation, and my family knows this. They’ve also come to enjoy these times for themselves as well. We schedule plenty of time to rest, so the times spent out and about can be more enjoyable (i.e. no sore feet for me). We take movies to watch and games to play as a family for our down time, which usually makes up half of our vacation time.
Avoid time. While I don’t wear a watch as a general rule, my husband also ditches his on vacation. Our oldest son enjoys being our “time keeper,” so we always know we can ask him if needed. Most of the time, though, we avoid worrying about the time. Having a week where time doesn’t matter is very refreshing. We eat when we’re hungry and sleep when we’re tired.
Consider a kitchen. We stay in a time-share condominium on most vacations. Having a kitchen is a huge money saver, and it helps avoid unwanted weight gain that often comes with vacation. Many hotels have rooms with kitchens or kitchenettes, and they are well worth the extra money.
I know I don’t have all the answers when it comes to vacations, and know everyone’s situation is unique. But, I do know that what I have suggested here as well as in the rest of the series has made family vacations into great bonding times as well as low stress times for my family. All I can do is offer what works for me, and I pray that it stimulates you to explore what works for you to have vacations that draws you closer together as a family. Being deliberate about the structure of your vacation really will you to grow closer together as a family and to truly relax at the same time.
DISCUSSION: What are your suggestions for enjoying vacation and growing closer as a family?