Responsibility and Trust

Trust God

When your kids frustrate you. Trust God.

When your boss doesn’t agree with you. Trust God.

When a friend forgets to call you… again. Trust God.

If you’ve lost your job and can’t find another. Trust God.

When you feel overwhelmed. Trust God.

When your schedule is out of control. Trust God.

If you and your spouse just aren’t communicating. Trust God.

If you feel constantly work out and tired. Trust God.

If you lost your temper yet again. Trust God.

If life is just a constant struggle. Trust God.

The Blame Game

Unfortunately, our first reaction in these and other trials, tests and temptations isn’t usually trust. It’s blame.

We blame our kids for being disrespectful.

We blame our boss for not listening or micromanaging.

We blame our friends for being selfish or too busy for us.

We blame employers for being too picky about qualifications.

We blame the government for taking our job away.

We say life is just too demanding, others are constantly asking too much from us, and our spouses are just distant. Besides, we can’t help losing our temper… we’ve always had a bad temper, and we always will. Not our fault.

The blame game can be very easy to play. Too easy. And maybe, when blaming others doesn’t work, we blame God.

And remember, when you are being tempted, do not say, “God is tempting me.” God is never tempted to do wrong, and he never tempts anyone else. Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death. (James 1:13-15)

Blame avoids getting at the root cause, the desires that entice us. As a result, blame avoids us taking responsibility for our parts in any situation.


Responsibility is hard and uncomfortable. Taking responsibility means admitting we’re at least somewhat at fault. It means admitting the need for us to change. Focusing on blaming others also takes immense energy. It also holds off victory in our lives.

When we decide to take responsibility, we can finally experience true growth. We then discover true freedom as the chains of blame fall way and victory becomes a reoccurring reality.

Taking responsibility also shows integrity, which makes following Christ more appealing to non-Christians. It’s a conscious choice we must make over and over again but one that pays big dividends — freedom that leads to victory.

God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. (James 1:12)

When we take responsibility for the role we play in trials, tests and temptations, we show trust in God. We show we trust that He has equipped us with the gifts, abilities and experience needed to struggle to victory. We trust that He’s doing the same for others too.

Taking responsibility also shows trust in the testing of your faith. Trials, testing and temptations help us grow by first showing us how we’re doing, and then by increasing our endurance.

“…we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” (Romans 5:3-5)

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15 thoughts on “Responsibility and Trust

  1. "Trials, testing and temptations help us grow by first showing us how we’re doing. After all, only by getting on the treadmill do we see what kind of shape we’re in. How would we really know otherwise?"

    This is so true and so brilliantly put, Kari. I love the treadmill example. For me right now, blogging is my treadmill – and it's showing me areas of sin and weakness I didn't know I had! Spending a lot of time with God renewing my mind to work through those areas. I hope to be able to get on the blogging "treadmill" eventually without huffing and puffing like I'm dying! It helps to think there's no reason I should be in shape right away as I haven't been doing it for that long.

    • My pastor used the analogy in his sermon yesterday, and it made so much sense to me. So many of the struggles we go through in life are like marathons. We need to train, and that training takes a long time. We need to watch what we put into our bodies. We need to sacrifice and take time for recovery. We need accountability too. We also need a training plan. In a nutshell, it's not an instant gratification approach. Getting in shape DOES take a long time, and staying in shape takes continual and deliberate attention to a lot of the small things in our lives. Continue moving forward, something that runners so often need to do, and remember that the small things you are doing will add up over time to make a huge difference. You can do this!

  2. Well said Kari. We don't want to take responsibility. It is so much easier to blame someone else or at least determine that "it's not our fault." Time to get in shape. Thanks! Great analogy as I just got off my treadmill a little bit ago. 🙂

  3. Kari,
    I think I get frustrated and discouraged when those type of things happen and it continues when I pray and don’t see any resolution. That is when I have to fight the temptation to blame God; to not trust that he will come through; to not trust that his way is best. I really do not like going through trials to have growth. I wish for an easier path sometimes. I must remind myself often that God is faithful… Always.

    • I agree. The process may be simple, but it sure is not easy. For me, preparing for trials ahead of time definitely does help. As you know, that just means getting as close to Jesus as possible. I know of no other solution that works for the long-term.

  4. Kari, what a great message! As usual you hit home with me. I hate having to admit I am responsible for my attitude, and sometimes me actions. But only then can I change them. Yes, blame comes much easier. If you have not read the Yada Yada Prayer series you would love it. Neta Jackson uses them to teach us all some valuable lessons, first and foremost being TRUST GOD! I just finished the series and now will see if I can get her next series. They are totally inspirational.

    • My boys and I pray regularly that we honor God in our attitude, actions and words. This is where we all struggle with flesh vs. spirit. No, I have not read that series yet. Have seen it but haven't gotten into it yet. Thanks for the recommendation.

  5. For me, the difficulty often lies with my own sins and failures. They have natural consequences and those create suffering. God didn't put me there – my own sinfulness and stupidity did. So it's not an issue of trusting God in that way. But it is about trusting that God can take my failures and turn them into something that is beautiful and ultimately for my good (Rom 8:28).

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