People will hurt you. Sometimes the same person will hurt you repeatedly. What do you do?
Do you get angry? Depressed? Bitter? Resentful? Beaten down?
In my struggle to let any of those reactions happen again, God has reprogrammed my thinking. He’s taught me not to let emotions control me but to instead think and act based on his word.
Specifically, five verses have helped me better understand how to not take hurt personally and to instead allow healing and restoration happen.
“Love is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” (1 Corinthians 13:15)
- No matter what others say or do (or don’t say or don’t do), I am determined to love. This means, I avoid being rude or selfish, and I ask God for the patience and the ability to forgive.
“See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” (Hebrews 12:15)
- God’s grace is abundant and far-reaching. It gives me new life, and it can do the same for anyone else. I must never forget this.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm34:18)
- No matter what happens, God is with me. He comforts me and keeps me from getting stuck in the muck and mire of the pit of despair.
“The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has appointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to build up the broken-hearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives, and to release from darkness the prisoners.” (Isaiah 61:1)
- God takes my hurt and folds them into my testimony. The freedom he has brought me, he promises to everyone who calls on his name. How can I not share this truth?
“Give thanks to the God of heaven. His love endures forever.” (Psalm 136:26)
- A thankful heart is a forgiving heart.
Application Through Reflection
I’m a sensitive person. That means that my emotions lead me to care and feel deeply. It also means I can get offended and take things personally all too easily. Add to that my active imagination, and there’s a recipe for discontent and depression.
God is teaching me to not take everything so personally. He’s helping me to instead give my emotions and deep feelings over to him and let him use them for his purposes. As a result, I am experiencing more joy in my relationships.