When we are disconnected, we have less patience with one another. The less quality time we spend together, the more we get into the habit of living separate lives instead of living life together. Not a great feeling. Sort of lonely.
Connection takes deliberateness. It takes compromise and sacrifice. And, it also takes creativity.
By no means do I have this connection thing figured out. In fact, I write this post in hopes of finding ways to better connect. With that being said, consider the following ideas for connecting.
Books – My fiction reading revolves around what my 14-year-old reads. Basically, I read whatever he recommends. We talk about the books, watch and talk about associated movies, discuss actors/actresses good for playing certain characters, and look forward to new books coming out. I am willing to let my son choose my books indefinitely, even for the rest of my life. What if no matter where either of us goes, we connect through the books we read? Yeah, I would be okay with never choosing another fiction book to read.
Food – My youngest loves food. He’ll try just about anything. He also enjoys cooking. So we choose recipes and make meals together. I’m not a great cook, but he loves helping me. I’m not also very good at asking for help or accepting it when it’s offered, and that needs to change.
Coffee – I truly enjoy good coffee, and I love having coffee with my husband. We have it Saturday mornings together when possible and every day when on vacation. We even have coffee “together” when we’re apart. And usually, not always when we’re apart, we talk while we drink coffee. We need this to exist no matter what else is going on in our lives.
Mom – My mom & I text regularly, and she’s faithful about stopping by each week to say “hi.” We take a yearly weekend trip together in lieu of birthday, Christmas & Mother’s Day gifts. We sometimes exercise together, and we try to schedule family game nights often. Connecting with mom has always existed for me, and I need it to always be there.
Friends – Exercising together. Coffee together. Going to each other’s kids’ sporting events. Grocery shopping together. Finding ways to connect in the everyday events of life. A connecting text or email helps when face-to-face can’t happen. Online friendships involve commenting on blogs regularly and sometimes sending personal emails. And, even for those of us who don’t care for it, sometimes talking on the phone needs to happen to make sure friends stay connected.
Why is connection so important? Scripture tells us to encourage one another (1 Thessalonians 5:11) and to stir one another up (Hebrews 10:24). It says we need each other to make us better (Proverbs 27:17). God’s presence becomes amplified when we’re with other believers (Matthew 18:20). We are also to have unity and brotherly love (1 Peter 3:8). None of this happens consistently and with much effectiveness without regular connection.
To better understand the importance of connection in your life, consider how you feel when you lack connection. Even though I’m an introvert and a loner, I need regular connection for encouragement, motivation, improvement, more of God’s presence, enjoyment of the blessings of unity and, most importantly, to truly give and receive love.
Sure, I can motivate and improve myself. Sure, I can experience God’s presence on my own. I can also say I love others easily. Yet, none of this quite measures up to the experience of connecting with others. Nothing can replace connecting. In fact, connecting with others amplifies my life in a way that isn’t otherwise possible. Without connecting, I am truly limited in virtually every area of life.
DISCUSSION: What are your thoughts about the who, what, when, where & why of connecting?